Five things you need to know to write your wedding vows, with Celebrant, Janet Hussey
Tips and tricks to inspire you to write the most romantic, humorous and meaningful vows, and who better to ask than a celebrant!
Stones: Before we get started, tell us a little about your background
Before becoming a celebrant, I spent the first years of my life working in corporate, first as a secretary and later as a trainer. After becoming disillusioned in the corporate world, a long-time friend of mine suggested I would make a great celebrant. So the seed was planted, and I’ve been working as a marriage and funeral celebrant for over 20 years. I wouldn't change a thing. I’m also recently a first-time mother… of a tiny black female Toy Poodle!
Stones: How would you best describe your style when it comes to hosting a wedding ceremony?
I try not to take myself too seriously. I am youthful in my approach, fun, friendly, outgoing, yet sensitive to your needs and just simply love giving people the very best ceremony they could wish for.
Stones: What are your top 5 words of wisdom for couples who have decided to write their own vows
Start with the most important thing - Your partner. Whether you opt for humor or are likely to bring your partner (and guests) to tears, write your vows as though you're speaking only to your spouse-to-be.
Write it all down, then edit - Don’t wait until the 11th hour to start writing your vows. Take your time, and despite the pressure, try not to leave your vows to the last minute; you'll appreciate having the time to rework them. Try jotting down words or thoughts as you think of them.
Be authentic - Use your own language, use the words that you would normally say to each other and include some humour. It helps to relax you and your partner.
Promises to your partner - A vow, if nothing else, is a promise after all. You can’t include everything, so focus on the main things, eg. make our marriage my top priority, fall in love over and over again. However you choose to promise yourself to your partner, keep in mind what makes your connection unique, and what makes the person you're promising yourself to your perfect match.
Practice saying your vows out loud - Reading your words to yourself works in the editing process, but reciting them aloud to make sure the words flow easily, is highly recommended. Perhaps you can try practicing in front of a mirror or in the shower.
Have fun! – Don’t forget it. It’s your wedding day and you want to enjoy every moment.
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